team V individual ...the head game begins

I have always been a team player, work, family and sport. I have prided myself on that, the whole, will shine if i do my part as best I can.

But in life that doesn't work because some how or even sometimes you feel ripped off. For example most of you would have experienced in your working careers someone who always gets away with what is seems, "murder". It might be something like a promotion/ better detail /more pay/ bigger office or just is an asshole that the boss thinks is a wonderful employee. Same with Family. there is always someone in the family that can do no wrong.  But as a Team member ...I suck it up, and think that its better for the whole! ...........................WHY?

That is what i have been thinking of late. What is better? Team or individual. And in what situation should I pick team or individual. My little family works so well as a team.  At work I am happy with my team that I am in and work hard to make everyone happy as does my Boss.


Only from 2009 I became an individual with my weight loss. Only I can do it and its up to me everyday to make sure that i do everything I can to lose weight. If i fall its my fault, I am responsible for energy in energy out. So this works as if Weight Loss was left to my family I would fail. My Mother is not the best supporter of weight loss and healthy living with her smoking and wonderful comments. OH can eat what ever he likes as he has an active job and love's surfing, so the end result is his energy out is so high therefore he eats all the time and large poritions. Little Miss is 3 and she would pick to eat chocolate for every meal so thats no help.

My next thought is when do you know that its time to stop supporting a dying team and look for something better or just go it alone.

With sports I am finding the team environment is draining me. But my Tri training is individual and it is lifting me.

I think i am asking this question on many levels, my hockey, Training, work and relationships with people.
i have been playing hockey for over 28years now and coaching for over 5 years.. I love Hockey and it is one of my passions, thou a little insane at times.. There will be a time when I can no longer play at the level that i want .. and i am starting to think it might be happening already!!! Am i the old women that wont get off the field!

Thats what i think has attracted me to Tri's as everyone is they for there own reason and everyone has they own goals. its individual, but still a community that invites and helps you along the way. (from what i have seen so far) There is only u that can stop you from achieving your goals. Not a coach dropping you to seconds (yes i still have some angry issues there ... but one thing is for sure i am going to play so damn well on the weekend in seconds and i might be the old duck but i sure going to have the moves!!)


I  dont think this blog has answered any questions just made me think more about my goals and what i really want out of the team and myself!

ox Trace